Love, Connection, Boundaries, Self Reliance - Saturn & Neptune in Aries.

I’m reminded by posts seen flashing on SoMe of 

LOVE CONNECTION, BOUNDARIES, SELF RELIANCE.

As we have shifted from Neptune & Saturn in Pisces into Aries and Mars, the Sun, Mercury & Venus (until March 7 then she’ll also move into Aries) currently all in Pisces big themes are:

RESTRUCTURING in

Love

Connection 

Boundaries 

Emotional regulation 

Responsibility 

Self love and Self reliance.

Pisces is known to be the sign of Love, unconditional love, compassion and forgiveness. Pisces is affiliated with Jesus, the World Saviour. Piscean people often wants to save the world or save the animals, or care deeply about ocean life. Pisces is ruled by Neptune, the Ocean God of Love, mystery, dreams, illusions, delusions, emotions, water, the astral body, spirituality, God Consciousness, the divine Space, Shiva. Both Pisces and Neptune are affiliarated with love, poetry, music, dance, photography. Neptune is an higher octave than Venus. Neptune is divine love. When we are in Pisces season most often matters of love roams inside a person.

The challenge & shadowsides of Pisces is borderlessness, the fish swim out, there’s a whole ocean, self abandonment, self sacrifice, self pity, codependency, giving too much & then being drained empty. 

In Pisces the dreams belong, for the perfect love, the fantasy. It is in Pisces we long to be seen, recognized, taken care of. It is here the inner child says “see me” “hold me” “rescue me” & the adult is a vague shadow. It is also here we become the savior of others. We pity others. We stay in unhealthy relationships & go over our boundaries out of empathy & compassion. Pisces is the sign of compassion. When Saturn and Neptune have been stationed there for years and they move more or less simultaneously into Aries we all experience major shifts in love life, relationship to Self & others. Our fantasy & the longing to be rescued are destroyed & reality checks in like an earthquake. 

Love relationships are uprooted. Destroyed. So many divorces in the Year of number 9, in the Wood Snake year, in the transition Saturn & Neptune into Aries.

Potential is recognized as illusion, a fictional of personal longing. What if, could be, just need to… Bang & the veils are gone. Clarity. The spectacles you wore for years are all the sudden clean. 

The transition of Saturn and Neptune from Pisces into Aries.

In Pisces we've been borderless and self sacrificing, we've go over our boundaries in some form, this doesn't necessary mean love relationships it can also be working too much, drinking too much, emotional reactions that were exagerrated, triggered and spilling over, crossed the boundaries of others, didn't respect the need for space and time out.

Boundaries are a major theme in this transition. We are guided into reflections on where we have gone over and beyond. And why is this important in when it comes to LOVE? Love is in the air with planets in Pisces; Mars, Sun, Mercury and in order to thrive as humans we need connection. If our songing is love and connection it is of utmost importance to reflect upon boundaries. Boundaries sustain a healthy relation and they sustain a healthy individual. Boundaries create respect in a relations, clarity, honesty and they create space for two different people to be just that: different. Now of course communication is required and a constant willingness to reflect and tap into Self.

As we realize where we’ve been borderless, not upholding healthy boundaries, not lived with integrity, vertical & with fierce self love, we start looking for new partners & connection but from a different foundation. The shift might have been so big that you are now a different tree sort. You were a willow tree, now you are a birch tree. You are no longer a house cat but a tiger. The elephant baby grew up to be a warm, fierce mother.

The transition of Saturn and Neptune changed our relationship patterns, we no longer wish to regulate our partner. We no longer wish to be the parent, nor settle for less hoping for potential to kick in. We want to grow up. We want to be adults. We want to live life fully with clear, clean spectacles, no longer blurred by illusions, hope or muddy waters. The stem of the tree trunk got wider and the roots deeper stretching upwards to absorb the light, divine light. We want to live in light. Grounded yet easeful. Vertical and straight.

The hard work that needs to be done.

Growing up & becoming an adult includes realizing our wounds, our flaws, shortcomings & acknowledging our inner child. An adult does not reject a crying child. But an adult also guides the child “there, there, no need to cry over spilt milk.” “I understand you are sad for not getting invited to the birthday party, I’ll sit with you for a while, then we’ll go play.” An adult reminds the child of joy & of play. An adult teaches the child regulation of emotions, regulation of the nervous system. If we did not learn these skills as children we must be responsible and teach ourselves those skills as grown ups. Responsibility is another trade of an adult. When we can’t regulate ourselves (yet) we seek therapy, teachers, do courses, to educate ourselves in emotional regulation. We realize that it is irresponsible & immature to ask our partners to be the parent we never had. 

This does not mean that we dismiss our inner child or our partner’s inner child. To hold space, to actively listen, to hold a hand, to genuinely care for our partner’s wounds are essential in a healthy relationship. What we don’t want to do is to become the child, act out from the child, spillover, loose our own container & drown in the wounds, pain, trauma. Become codependent. When we are codependent we are not capable of self regulation & we are not being responsible adults. We are children dependent on the partner for regulation, validation, comfort, acceptance, reassurance. We turn to the partner to fill up the aching hole. Codependency is dysfunctional. Codenpendent relationships are not healthy.

It is not healing to be in a codependent relationship, it is without fault destructive and can turn into extreme toxicity. This is not love.

This is love misunderstood. 

This is connection based on fear & Ego structures. 

Love is clear, healthy boundaries. Self love first. Self integrity first. Self regulation first. Self reliance first

Love is clear communication. Love is honesty also when it hurts. Love is honesty.

Aries is hardcore honesty. No bullshit. Saturn & Neptune are in Aries. Venus (March 7) and Chiron are in Aries. 

I’ve seen many posts with the longing for connection. Ask yourself who wants to connect? The child or the adult?

Your partner can see where you come from & if the need & longing for connection come mostly from the inner child the sexual desire will soon die. Nobody wants to make love to a child or a person in their wounds. It is a turn off and brings death to lovemaking. The sexual & romantic connection will evaporate. 

I want to explicitly enhance that healthy relationships include the flaws & the wounds of the partner. We are done with the fantasy of perfection. 

We want what is real. Honest. True. The whole package. But. How much space does the inner child take? Are you being responsible & self reliant? Are you mostly an adult or a child? If you use the sentence “I need this and that” where does the need come from?

It is never the duty of the partner to fill up wounds or the gnawing feeling of emptiness..

CONNECTION.

With 3-4 personal planets in Pisces LOVE is on the menu. 

Love & true connection.

Who doesn’t want that?

And it is in the air!

Love is in the air… /cosmos.

Venus & Mars play the strings of unconditional love. For the ones with open hearts this is apparant, for the ones with closed hearts the longing speaks loudly and in ways that cannot be ignored. Cold hearts will be faced with questions of uncomfortable accountably that the cold hearted one will deflect with attitude corresponding to wrath, spit, arrogance or belittleling. You'll know them from far away. There's a difference between cold hearts and closed hearts.

Pisces the sign of unconditional love where dolphins dance in the beauty of currents, where whales cry in mourning of loved ones, where love is celebrated in that unselfish way because that is what love is; unselfish, pure, endless, sweet and compassionate.

Venus, she is dancing the sweetest dance of hawaiian softness, in front of Mars, showing him her wrists, that he has nothing to fear. Mars in Pisces recognizing uncondional love after internal rupture surenders himself into care and tenderness to the divine Goddess who offers nothing but love. Mars in Pisces let himself open up and let his chest expands into the vibration of divine masculine love that recognizes the beauty and purity in all there is.

This is the play of the divine masculine and feminine. This is the play of Shiva and Shakti. Where Shiva finally recognizes her, the Goddess, her sacredness. And honors her in ways where she let's go...

Venus & Mars is the play of the Absolute Divine Love.

When we are in relationships that do not correspond to that divine love we will be shown signs. Rest assured.

Passion and Lust

When Venus moves into Aries on March 7 hormones will start flying, endorphins will stream in the blood veins and knock out your prefrontal cortex so you can’t think straight.

It will be walking bananas and moist yoga pants everywhere. When you go to ecstatic dances you’ll end up in a group orgie. A really good thing is that it will spark your creativity and you'll feel very radiantly alive.

But. Some of us might just be looking for the real thing, the long lasting, mature relationship realizing that flying hormones might be the source of emotional suffering & threesome dramas. That primitive desire is low frequency and most often does not lead to true love & respectful relationships. Venus, Saturn, Neptun, Chiron in Aries, followed by Mars and Mercury April 14 what a package. Good luck keeping your penis in your pants. We are in for car accidents and domestic violence for sure. 

Virtue becomes a test. Your moral integrity will definitely be tested. Maybe you don’t have any moral compass, global consciousness or care from before and balls and vaginas are already a life path. Well then. You entered heaven for sure. 

Attachment & clingy behavior will be met with a f.ck off. So if you don’t have a foundational portion of self worth & respect you might just get crushed under the avalanche. 

You guys who have been practicing healthy boundaries for a while might just come out of this with a whole new sense of self respect and good portion of positive pride. Damn. You’ve done good. We will all be tested though. Our biology includes hormones. No one is immune. Testosterone will flood the streets. You might feel the bump in the grocery store. Desire & primal nature, temptation in such ways that even the ones that committed their lives to God (aka Nuns & Monks, the self righteous Yogi) might reconsider. “That nun over there she does have a special swag in her hips during choir practice.” 

Get ready for chaos. And fun. 

True love also means great, unreal, wild sex. It’s not either or. 

Aries might come as a blessing to blast off the chasity belt & let your lower lips breathe in fresh air & it might also be the time to say NO. 

You are powerful beyond so use the energy to do good. Manifest on what you really want. Become intentional and attract what's for the best, most positive, healthy outcome. You might just attract your soulmate.

Aries is the sign of Passion and Primal Energy.

Aries is ruled by Mars the planet of war, aggression, violence, instincts, primitive and primal energy, reproduction, seeds, lust, sex and desire. Mars is also Lord of Attraction, the pull of opposites.

If you are an Aries, brace yourself. Breathing won't get you through but do it still, make it a non-negotiable habit. Aries are impulsive, they act before thinking and rarely, rarely anything good comes out of it. Think 5 times before acting! 5 times! Stay for f.cks grounded and practice leaning back. This very special once in a life time Aries season will hit people with the sun, moon and rising sign in Aries like a bomb. The comet is on it's way to Planet Earth. Determine what imprint you want to leave.

If you are a Leo or Sagittarius; passion, fire, desire, lust, creativity, joy will flow, dynamic energy, laughter, primal instinct will take over. You are the Queen and King of attraction. Attract with consciousness. Every action you take ask yourself: "Will I be able to wake up tomorrow with a clean, clear, respectful consciousness?"

Cancer, Libra and Capricorns: Breathe. You will be tested. Beyond. Even the chastity ones. If an open heart is not your forte the fear of love will be shown to you. Your wounds affecting your capability of love, knowing, feeling love will become apparant. Don't worry. It's a blessing in disguise, even though it will feel uncomfortable. You are charming people, stay heart centered, let go of calculations and fear based behavious, allow yourself to be spontaneous, maybe even wild.

Write the list now. Before Aries season begins March 21.

You want LOVE & CONNECTION?

1. What is a healthy relationship to me?

2. Where do I go over my boundaries?

3. Where have I compromised? 

4. Am I codependent? How?

5. Do I have low self esteem and/or self worth?

Be honest. Radically honest with yourself. Otherwise the coming Aries season will test you in very uncomfortable ways.

1) What are the qualities I look for in partner?

2) What do I need to feel safe, cared for?

3) What are green flags to me?

4)What are red flags to me?

5) What does love feel like? Feel like. 

(Do I even know what love is?)

Write it now before Aries season hits March 21. 

Then in the middle of chaos, when drama comes back to you, read your lists and use them as navigation maps through blood, tears, moist & heat. 

You’ll be fine. Stay close to your written words. Don't quenstion them. You can question and reconsider them the in October 2026. You'll be fine.

I honor your personal journey and celebrate your courageous action & pause. May stamina and hardcore core be with you. Think of Cindy Lauper. You are not lost.

Leika from Space.